Shaikh al-Albaani

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How does a Husband Deal with the Differences that Occur Between His Mother and His Wife?


 

Questioner: I have a mother and she causes problems with my wife, what should I do?

Al-Albaani: I’m thinking about this question [and as to] what my answer should be—I’m not with you such that I can know how it is that you deal with your mother and how she deals with your wife, so that I can [then, based upon that] say in answer to your question that you should do such and such. I don’t know what should be done.

But maybe you can bring to mind Allaah’s Statement عز وجل, “And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], “uff,” and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word. And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, ‘My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small.’” [Al-Israa 23-24]

Maybe you interact with your mother the way your Lord has decreed in this aayah?

Questioner: Oh Shaikh …

Al-Albaani: I’m asking you but you’re not answering, maybe you are doing what your Lord has decreed in this aayah?

Questioner: Yes …

Al-Albaani: So then what’s the problem?

Questioner: The problem is that she is ignorant of the legislation and opposes it in my house and with my wife, and when … I’ll give you some examples, O Shaikh …

Al-Albaani: No, we’re not in need of examples. Is she, for example, more misguided than Aazar, [Prophet] Ibrahim’s father?

Questioner: I don’t know that story well, O Shaikh.

Al-Albaani: Don’t you know that Ibrahim عليه السلام was the Khaleel of Ar-Rahmaan, and his father was a polytheist, and in the Quraan it mentions that he would [yet still] always admonish him by saying, “O my father! O my father! O my father!” “O my father! Do not worship the Devil!” [Maryam: 44]. So he was always gentle with him even though he was a polytheist—and no matter how ignorant, as you said, your mother is, she still, inshaa Allaah, is not a polytheist, so it is important that you are gentle in dealing with her, this is from one angle.

On the other hand concerning your wife, is she righteous, inshaa Allaah, and listens to what you say and obeys you?

Questioner: This is the other problem, she is also ignorant of some of the legislation.

Al-Albaani: Then how do you want me to give you an answer to a problem which is sitting between two? The first is to do with your mother and the other is connected to your wife—you find a solution to it according to what the legislation and sound reasoning together dictate.

Al-Hudaa wan-Noor, 437.

How can a Wife help her Deceased Husband? Can she Send the Reward of her Recitation of the Quraan to him?


Translated by Ahmed Abu Turaab

Questioner: Recitation of the Quraan reaches the dead?

Al-Albani: If the one reciting the Quraan is the child of the one who has passed away, whether it is the father or mother, then this recitation will benefit.

As for other than the children then their recitation will not benefit [anyone] other than their [own] parents as we just mentioned.

Thus the wife is excluded [from this category]–but [at the same time] there is no doubt that you, as a wife who has been afflicted with the demise of her husband … [there is no doubt that] it is within your capability to supplicate for him: [that] if he was someone who would do good, that our Lord, the Mighty and Majestic, increases his good deeds; and if he was someone who erred, that our Lord overlook his sins.

Always remember him with good and supplicate for him.

As for you reciting [the Quraan] and sending the reward for that recitation to the husband, then it is over, his actions have come to an end as I stated in the aforementioned hadith, the conclusion of which was, “… except for three: recurring charity, knowledge that others benefit by, or a righteous son who supplicates for him.”

Al-Hudaa wan-Noor, 290.

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A Conversation with his Wife | 4 | How did Umm al-Fadl help the Shaikh in his Knowledge?


Translated by Ahmed Abu Turaab

     “Our noble mother, did you have a role to play with regard to the level that our scholar and Shaikh, al-Albaani, reached in terms of excellence and knowledge in the religion of Allaah and the Sunnah of His Messenger عليه الصلاة والسلام. Because this concerns us greatly, how can we encourage and help our brothers and families in seeking knowledge? Was there a piece of research or an opinion in a matter or point of knowledge that may have popped up that was shared between you and the Shaikh, may Allaah have mercy on him, and did you benefit from his knowledge?

Your daughter and someone who loves you for the sake of Allaah.”

As for benefitting from [his] knowledge, then all praise is due to Allaah, we benefitted vastly from him. In fact, my family, Aal-Aabideen, and others benefitted from him after we got married. Many times people will ask me about a legislative ruling so I say, ‘The Shaikh used to say such and such about that,’ and if I don’t know, [then] on their behalf I ask some of the Shaikh’s students who were close to him and who he trusted.

As for my role in his knowledge, then I am not even a student of knowledge, and how can someone like me share with him in his knowledge and his precise knowledge-based research?

But I used to prepare the environment for him, as they say, as much as I was able to. I would serve him, his guests and his students as much as I could, for he did not have a maid and he would never accept having a maid in the house.

May Allaah grant you success, was-salaamu alaikum.

     “What effect did leaving Medinah al-Munawwarah have on our great scholar, i.e., when he moved from there?”

The Shaikh was greatly affected when he left Medinah an-Nabawiyyah. He used to regard the days he spent in the City of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم as the best of his life. But [at the same time] that did not ever stop him from continuing in his knowledge-based projects.

     “What is the most distinguished Islamic event that he participated in while residing in Medinah al-Munawwrah?”

As for the most distinguished Islamic even that occurred there then I do not know for I was not with him.

     “In the opinion of our Khaalah, Umm al-Fadl, how do we honour a great scholar like him?”

As for honouring the Shaikh then there is nothing like supplicating for him and adhering to the methodology which he would always call to and which he would summarise in two words: purification and cultivation. Namely, purifying the methodology of the Muslims and their heritage from the innovations, heretical superstitions [khuraafaat] and weak hadiths and so on, while cultivating [the people] upon the true methodology and the upright religion. The Shaikh used to regard one of the greatest problems of the Muslims, especially those who claim to be following the Sunnah, to be correct cultivation upon the sound methodology. And by and large, this cultivation requires a long period of time and great effort.

A Conversation with his Wife | 3 | A Description of his Day


     “Our noble mother, we’d like you to give us a description of a complete day from his life, may Allaah have mercy on him, from the time he would wake up for fajr until the time he’d go to bed at night.”

A description of a full day from the Shaikh’s life. The Shaikh, may Allaah have mercy on him, would wake up for the morning prayer, if not before it, and would also wake some of his students through the phone. Then he would, as long as he was physically able, go and take his students from their houses or from the road where they’d be waiting for him. They would pray the morning prayer in a mosque where the Imaam would strive to implement the Sunnah and shun innovations, like the qunoot in fajr, and most of the time the mosque was far away from our area.

Then if there was no sitting with his students in the mosque, the Shaikh would come back to his library and stay there amongst his books and his research up until seven o’clock in the morning at which time I would have prepared some breakfast for him. So he would take his breakfast and then return to his library and stay there until it was time for the siesta [qailulah], which was when the Shaikh would begin to feel sleepy. So he would go and sleep for a short while and then return to his library.

And this was how his lunch would be too, at one o’clock. As for dinner, then the Shaikh would not desire it. He would answer calls on the phone after ishaa prayer, for he had appointed two hours for issuing religious verdicts on the phone. As for visits, he had set the time between maghrib and ishaa for them during the days when his circumstances would allow him to do so.

     “How would the Shaikh react to what the Islamic nation was going through and what affect did that have on him?”

As for the reaction of the Shaikh to what was occurring in the Islamic ummah, then we did not have a television in the house, because the Shaikh did not want to bring that upon us, and he wouldn’t buy newspapers but [at the same time] he would be extremely hurt at what was happening to the Muslims in Palestine, Iraq, Afghanistan and the other Islamic countries.

And he was often moved by his Muslim brothers in Syria at the time of the events that occurred in the eighties with the Alawites. Since many times the Muslim youth would come to him and seek his counsel and he would honour them and receive them in the best way possible.

A Conversation with his Wife | 2 | Did he help his Family or Neglect them due to his Teaching?


Translated by Ahmed Abu Turaab

     “Can you, O Khaalah, tell us briefly about the times the Shaikh had to relocate?”

The Shaikh emigrated from Albania with his father to Damascus when he was about ten years old. He then emigrated to Jordan in 1980 and settled in South Marca, Amman. Then he was compelled to go back to Damascus and from there to Beirut, Lebanon, in 1981. Shaikh Zuhair ash-Shaaweesh hosted him there in his house. After that he travelled to Sharjah and stayed there for two months, calling to the Salafi manhaj. After which he went to Qatar for one month, then Kuwait, staying there for ten days. Then Sharjah and from there back to Jordan where he stayed until he passed away on Saturday, 2/10/1999.

     “Being the wife of this noble scholar, did you see that his knowledge, seeking knowledge and teaching it to the people took away from his coexistence with you as the head of your household? And did this have a negative effect on his children? And my dear mother, can I ask you to single me out with some supplication for I am in dire need of it. May Allaah protect you and give you good.”

Wa alaikum Salaam wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuhu

I thank you for your warm sentiments and I want to let you know that seeking knowledge would not prevent the Shaikh from carrying out any of his family obligations.

Rather, the total opposite was true.

For he, may Allaah have mercy on him, was an exemplary head of a household, cooperating with his family.

And believe me, my son, he used to help me a great deal in the household chores such that I would feel embarrassed in front of him due to it. So much so that one time he was cleaning the patio with me, to which I said, ‘O Shaikh! Don’t disgrace me in front of the neighbours, they will say that you are doing your wife’s work.’ He replied, ‘This is not a disgrace. Don’t you know that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم would be at the service of his family?’

When I would ask him for anything [I needed] for the house, for example, an extra shelf somewhere, he would assess the situation and think about it and if he found that it was appropriate he would go ahead with it and do it with his own hands. And if he needed to go and buy something for it, he would do so in his car and then come back and do what I had requested of him.

One of his hobbies was to go on trips, may Allaah have mercy on him, like Syrians do, the [picnic] basket was always in the car. We would go together in spring, summer, even winter, looking at the snow and [the] wintertime [landscape]. He would complement me by drinking tea and coffee, even though it was not his habit to drink either of them.

But he would never leave his books on any outing we would go on. Books were his companions wherever he went.

In fact, there were many times when I would wake up and would not see him on the bed. So I would look for him and find him in his study, having turned on the lamp, engrossed in his books. I’d be surprised and he would say, ‘These are my beloved!’ May Allaah have mercy on him.

May Allaah grant you succees, remove your distress and calamity and make you from those happy in this world and the Hereafter. Aameen.

The Shaikh’s Life in his Own Words … 2


The Beginning of his Quest for Knowledge

“The first thing that I had a passion to read were Arabic stories, like those of Dhaahir [Baybars] and Antara [ibn Shaddaad a famous Arab poet], King Saif [ibn Dhi Yazan] and their like, then translated crime or detective novels like Arséne Luprin and others.  After which I found an inclination towards reading books about history.

Then one day at one of the booksellers, I noticed an issue from a magazine called Al-Manaar amongst the books for sale so I bought it.  In it I came across a piece of research written by as-Sayyid Rasheed [Rida] in which he was describing the book Al-Ihyaa by al-Ghazaali, pointing out its strengths and weaknesses.

So for the first time I across this type of knowledge-based critique and that drew me to reading the entire issue.  I continued following the subject of Al-Ihyaa in the [book] Al-Ihyaa itself, with the version which contained the hadith verification of al-Haafidh al-Iraaqi, and I found myself having to borrow it since I did not have the money to purchase it.

As a result I started to read [the entire] book since that detailed verification fascinated me such that I resolved to copy out the book or summarise it after I had laid down a mental picture of copying out the [hadith] verification which was printed in the footnotes of Al-Ihyaa.  I started to write out the hadith, “Indeed praise for a servant can spread as far and as wide as that which is between the east and the west and yet he is not equal to the weight of a mosquito before Allaah …” this is how it was written in Al-Ihyaa.

Al-Haafidh al-Iraaqi said, “And I have quoted it from him but have not been able to find it with such wording.  In the two Sahihs from the hadith of Abu Hurayrah there occurs, “Indeed a huge fat man will come on the Day of Resurrection and he will not weigh the weight of the wing of a mosquito in Allaah’s Sight.”

But what did I do?  I wrote down a hyphen and completed the hadith as it is found in the two Sahihs and I continued upon this so as not to attribute to Al-Haafidh al-Iraaqi something that he did not say, and I also placed the addition which I was writing from the original and to which he attributed the hadith, between two hyphens [=].  In those days I was new to researching and if I knew then what I know now I would have used brackets like the ones I used in my books thereafter instead of the two hyphens.

I started to copy and then got half way through the first volume, when an idea occurred to me which was that during my work on the hadiths parts of them would come by me whose words I did not understand and as a result the intending meaning of the hadith would not be clear to me.  So I said to myself, ‘Why don’t I explain all of these words in the margins which would be a revision for me and an aid to understanding the hadith?” So after I had gotten half way through the first volume I left it and started copying all over again based upon this new idea.

Every time I came across a hadith which had a word I couldn’t fathom I would use Ibn al-Athir’s book Ghareeb al-Hadith [a book explaining rare and difficult words found in hadiths] and dictionaries and then I would write the meaning in the margin, until the notes that I would write for myself turned out to be more than the actual text, and I carried on like this until I finished the book.  I strived like this until a good method was established which helped to make concrete all those new points.

And I think this effort which I put into that study is what encouraged me and endeared to me the desire to continue upon this path, since I found myself seeking the aid of many different works on the Arabic language, figurative speech [بلاغة], and works explaining the rare and difficult words found in hadiths so that the text could be understood alongside its verification.

And this is what benefitted me greatly, and in reality I say: I am amazed at Allaah’s Kindness to His servants, and I feel that Allaah was moving me from one step to the next.  Now I reap the benefits of what I used to write and make copies of, [at that time] I did not know what was behind that writing or that copying, now I reap the benefits of some of that work.  I will find writings from my early knowledge-based research that is profuse and abundant and that was due to the persistent desire to follow such research and because I found the narrations of hadith to be something beautiful.  And I still  continue, and all praise is for Allaah, to have the vigour and desire to research, but old age has its rights.”

 

His Children

“Indeed from the blessings of Allaah, the Mighty and Majestic, upon me is that he inspired me to name all of my sons as servants of His, and they are: Abdur-Rahmaan, Abdul-Lateef, Abdur-Razzaaq from my first wife, may Allaah have mercy on her; and Abdul-Musowwir, Abdul-Muhaimin and Abdul-A’laa from my other wife, and I don’t think anyone has beaten me to naming their son Abdul-Musowwir since with all of the names of narrators that I have come across in the books of the men of hadith and its conveyors [I never found this name].  And I ask Allaah, the Most High, to increase me in success and that He bless me in my family, “”Our Lord!  Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring those who will be the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders for the pious.” [Furqaan 25:74]

Then in 1383AH [1963CE] while I was in Medina, Allaah blessed me with a son whom I named Muhammad, as a reminder of his, صلى الله عليه وسلم, city and in fulfilment of his saying, “Name yourselves with my name, but do not use my kunyaa.”
[Bukhaari and Muslim]

 

Giving Precedence to the Truth over the Heritage of the Forefathers

“I continued to follow in the footsteps of my father in this direction, until Allaah guided me to the Sunnah, so I left much of what I had studied with him which he regarded as being a means of getting closer to Allaah and worship.”

 

Al-Albaani and His Father

“I had proceeded to study the Sunnah with great longing and adoration, and so when my father saw that in me he began to warn me and said, “The science of hadith is the profession of the bankrupt!”  But despite what that differing put between us in terms of ideological outlook, near the end of his life we become very close, as he used to say at the end of every debate, ‘I do not deny that you brought me some knowledge based benefits concerning matters about which I was not on clear proof beforehand, like it not being legislated to intend to go to pray salaah at the graves of the righteous.’”

Hayaatul-Allaamah al-Albaani, rahimahullaah, bi qalamihi, pp. 5-10.

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